The "Nice Guys" Essay

[kyra_ojosverdes]

I wasn't going to link it, because it's been linked everywhere, but y'know, while reading it I was reminding myself that I'm not allowed to use a highlighter pen or underline words on my computer monitor, so here. No More Mr. Nice Guy, by divalion. There will be a quiz later. And oh hell did I have a few lightbulb moments about why certain people annoy me. I'd post my favorite parts but that would take a page or two. Well okay, just one bit.

Flirting without expecting a return on investment is ok. Active seduction when there are clear signs that it is welcome is ok. Trying to constantly slip in "innocent" gropes, innuendo, kisses, or anything else when she's not interested is the adult equivalent of "are we there yet? are we there yet? how about now? how about now?"

Comments

[samvimes.livejournal.com]

I read that rant, and the "Bi Bi Baby" one too. She's a good writer and has some keen insights into people.

[kyra-ojosverdes.livejournal.com]

The Bi Bi Baby had me nodding so hard I risked neck injury.