Always seemed to me that, given the divorce rate, I'd just as soon go with the odds and not take that walk. Two generations back and further, couples got married and, for the most part, stayed together. Attanged marriages, for the most part, worked. People learned that they had to stick together if they were gonna' survive. Then, a generation back, we got all Kramer vs. Kramer about it. Some good things came of that, I'm sure - and I've nothing at all against divorce... Just everything against getting married without a commitment to work shit out.
Today, it's even stupider.
That's not to say "never," and certainly not a dig at anyone who's had a shitty marriage, but only to say that I've never seen the need to turn a perfectly good relationship into a legal matter. Most relationships eventually fail - I've learned that, and I have no real problem with it. I just don't understand why, when a marriage fails, we still have a thousand pains in the ass to get it dissolved.
Hence, no ring on this finger, even if I've been in a quite happy relationship for nearly seven years now.
I agree with the lack of commitment to deal with shit comment. I was in a rush to get married but now I think I need to really know my lover before I can even consider such a step.
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Date: 2006-07-10 04:17 pm (UTC)Count yourself among the fortunate.
That is all.
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Date: 2006-07-10 04:59 pm (UTC)Today, it's even stupider.
That's not to say "never," and certainly not a dig at anyone who's had a shitty marriage, but only to say that I've never seen the need to turn a perfectly good relationship into a legal matter. Most relationships eventually fail - I've learned that, and I have no real problem with it. I just don't understand why, when a marriage fails, we still have a thousand pains in the ass to get it dissolved.
Hence, no ring on this finger, even if I've been in a quite happy relationship for nearly seven years now.
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Date: 2006-07-10 05:05 pm (UTC)