I tried because I think that kind of thing could be useful, but I just think the words are too strong. If we thought those things about you, why would we like you?
Plus, there is this worry that the person will go "You think I'm _____? How can you think that? Justify it you son of a bitch?" even when you're picking the most apt of the worst.
That said I will probably fill yours out eventually and will also probably offer it as an option to my friends list (though I cynically know most wouldn't fill it out, but it offers me a chance to subtly pimp my other list again).
and reading the other posts : I second those and refuse ( yes I could find some labels if I forced myself [ and get big overlap with what you evidently chose ]. I disagree with 2 out of the 8 in Arena, Facade and Blind Spot.)
Nope, can't do it. I don't see you as any of those things and couldn't have done that to you even when I was in high school (though I did go to high school with people who could have).
Tell me how I'm not vulgar. Now go read an adults-filtered post that's not going to be scanned by someone's thirteen year old and tell me how I'm not vulgar. :-p
Having done it, I would like to point out that it was really, really hard to find five.
When I did mine, I found it really, really hard to find the five positive ones, and wanted to check off nearly every box in the negative ones - I imagine most people find it easier to find their own flaws, and other people's good points.
When I did mine, I found it equally easy to check off the positives and negatives... which is probably a good thing? I don't know.
I haven't been able to do anyone's Nohari. I've tried a few times, and clicked the window closed because either I didn't know the person well enough to give that sort of feedback, or I know the person well enough that I can't give that sort of feedback outside the context of a conversation with much attention paid to the other person's reactions! (Conflict-avoidant? Oh my, yes!)
What I find interesting (just to continue the "all about me" flavor of this comment) is that when my Johari window has contradictory terms, I think "Oh, these two people have different experiences of me, that makes sense." When I see contradictory terms on my Nohari, I think "Oh now, how can I be both predictable and rash?" :-)
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kyra_ojosverdes) wrote2006-02-12 08:48 pm
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Spoilsport. :-p
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Having said that, I haven't been able to fill out anyone else's for pretty much the same reason you gave. :-)
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I've done a couple of the Johari windows but I'm not doing anybody's Nohari. Nosiree bob.
after looking at it
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Nothing there that describes you. Sorry.
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When I did mine, I found it really, really hard to find the five positive ones, and wanted to check off nearly every box in the negative ones - I imagine most people find it easier to find their own flaws, and other people's good points.
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When I did mine, I found it equally easy to check off the positives and negatives... which is probably a good thing? I don't know.
I haven't been able to do anyone's Nohari. I've tried a few times, and clicked the window closed because either I didn't know the person well enough to give that sort of feedback, or I know the person well enough that I can't give that sort of feedback outside the context of a conversation with much attention paid to the other person's reactions! (Conflict-avoidant? Oh my, yes!)
What I find interesting (just to continue the "all about me" flavor of this comment) is that when my Johari window has contradictory terms, I think "Oh, these two people have different experiences of me, that makes sense." When I see contradictory terms on my Nohari, I think "Oh now, how can I be both predictable and rash?" :-)