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Stolen from ladytabitha and Poll-arized. (Haw. Pollarized.)

C'mon, take the poll, I wanna know, because I answered "Yes" to almost all of these.

[Poll #501132]

EDIT: if you're not on my friendslist, kindly introduce yourself in comments please! Otherwise I'll spend all day analyzing your userinfo, trying to figure out who you are and where you came from. Thanks. My coworkers thank you as well, as they really like it when I get work done during work hours. ;-)

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I don't know what not being single has to do with hotness or not. Just because I have a partner doesn't keep you or anyone from looking.

I'll also point out my membership in

slow_poke_poly.

BTW, I think you look rather hot yourself but I figure you get that often enough that I didn't want it to just sound like some pick-up line.

I rarely consider compliments to be pickup lines unless the person giving said compliment is actually in a position to pick me up. Which is to say, I live in Montana and pretty much everyone I'd be interested in lives somewhere else. ;-)

Uhm. *Cough* Nice Icon. In response to such things, I always wonder if I would be better using this icon (http://www.livejournal.com/userpic/8970074/479302) rather than the one that I did use. They're similar but have different viewpoints/approaches.

It's amazing the number of people that will try pick-up lines over the Internet. I figure better safe than sorry.

So, I have to ask the question of "Why Montana?"

I like the icon you used. (Without getting into too much icky detail, I have a history of trauma and am still a little "triggery" about things which can cause actual pain. Therefore, the cartoon wolf is cute and flattering, while the claws are a little scary.)

Why Montana? Well, my parents moved to Idaho when I was 13. I married on my 18th birthday because I was still suffering from puberty-induced brain-death and at age 21 was divorced with two children. At that point I decided I wanted to go to college rather than continue to starve at minimum wage, but because I had children and a custody agreement, I was rather limited in where I could attend college. By the time I finished college I had another divorce, another child (not in that order), and a custody agreement stating that if I leave Missoula, I lost custody of my daughter. It helps that I really love Missoula. So, to sum that up, I had children too early and am too poor to move somewhere else. :-)

Used properly, such things are, to me, only stimulation. If pain is caused, something went wrong. But I also understand that the sight of such can be "triggery" and that's why I usually reserve such for peoople that I know will like such.

I can understand loving a place. I really love Seattle. I just don't understand living in a place not on or near the coast. I needs lots and lots of water nearby if I can.

What do you love about Missoula?

Yeah, I figure that my triggers are my issue and not anyone else's, but at the same time I like to give people a heads-up to help avoid those oh-so-lovely situations where some seemingly innocuous action/whatever triggers my PTSD and I'm a wreck for days or more and then the person who happened to unknowingly hit the trigger feels bad for not somehow anticipating and avoiding it all... blah!

What I love about Missoula: it's quite liberal by Montana standards (read: much more conservative than most large cities, but there are people whose skin is in the "brown" range instead of "peach/pink," people know how to deal when someone mentions they're vegetarian, and at we've had more anti-war protests than pro-war ones), it's safe enough that I can let my kids roam a bit and get that whole "learning the limits of adventure and having a brush with serious injury BEFORE you get behind the wheel of a car" experience, and I can go hiking/backpacking at the drop of a hat because there are tons of gorgeous wild areas right here.

I don't need the ocean, but I do need the mountains and the conifers.

That's a really healthy response to having triggers. Yay for you!

Mountains and conifers are very important too. Making it to one of the parks to just be with the redwoods is important to me to do several times a week.

It's been way too long since I stood and communed with a tree. Must do that soon.

I'm still confused about not looking at someone that is already partnered.
Considering that both Cindy and I are not picky in terms of gender, we have fun people watching...

Oh, it's not that I don't LOOK at someone who is already partnered, it's that unless I'm sure that the couple is poly, I try to be careful in terms of "not stepping on toes." I assume monogamy until corrected. ;-)

I certainly do look, though.

Cool community! I myself am one of those people who becomes monogamous once the emotional connection gets strong, but doesn't mind a bit having a polyamorous partner. My "becoming monogamous" isn't so much a choice as how my brain seems to be wired up. :-) (Therefore, I friended

mono_poly to see if I like the community!)

Cool. I'd been meaning to check out

mono_poly but had forgotten to. Thank you!

BTW, you might find my comments on the list of "You know you have ADD when…" to be amusing.

And mono vs. poly does seem to be something that people are wired into. It's possible to change such wiring but very, very difficult.

I swore off trying to change my wiring back in 1999 when I had a very traumatic coming-out process. (I was a devout Mormon. I came out as lesbian. There ya go.)

I can (and do) date several people at once when it's in the "getting to know you" phase, but once the emotions start getting all squishy, my focus narrows pretty quickly. :-)

I'll happily read over your comments once I can click a link ;-)

Definitely not a request for you to change your wiring. Just a general comment. And knowing that you'll change as emotions deepen is good. I've had "issues" with people swooping into the poly pool and swooping out again.

Devout mormon => lesbian must've been a bit disconcerting. Were you able to keep any of your friends?

No, I wasn't able to keep any Mormon friends. I lost my entire support system pretty much overnight when I made the decision to stop fighting my sexual orientation and start accepting it. (Fighting it had kept me at the brink of suicide for about six months at that point.)

Surprisingly (to me at the time), I was able to keep my family. I knew my siblings would be fine, but I really was expecting to lose my parents over it. I was very happily wrong about that. :-)

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